December 26, 2017
There comes a time in your life when you start to change the way you think about yourself. You start to recognize your strength. You start to see yourself as this incredibly strong and sexy woman. Unfortunately, it’s harder for some than for others to see these things. One woman might need many years to understand self love, while another woman has it figured out overnight. We all learn differently.
I found my way to the self love club after having been told for many years that I just wasn’t enough. I was drained completely of all of my confidence and strength. I wish I would have understood the power that I had before getting my heart broken. I wish I would have been able to save myself from the pain that my unsuccessful friendships and relationships caused me. I wish I could go back in time and tell myself that I deserved more than what I was receiving.
That’s the thing about life, we don’t get to change the past. We only have control of our futures. Do we want to live the rest of our lives trying to become somebody else? Or do we want to live our lives with a burning passion for our self love?
I chose to love myself. Ferociously. I chose to put myself first, never again allowing another human being to put out the fire in my soul. I can’t go back and help my younger self find her way, but I can do my best to help myself now. Finding self love saved my life. Self love taught me that if someone doesn’t think that I am good enough, they do not deserve me.
Self love taught me that I am a strong woman. I don’t need to please everyone. I have to take care of myself. It’s not a selfish act. Never was and never will be. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. YOU are important.
We are often told how to live our lives. What to wear, how to speak and how to love are things that people tell us to do differently in order to keep their lives calm. We are taught how to fly under the radar in order to keep the peace. We are taught to live a modest lifestyle and although this lifestyle should be something we are proud of every day, we aren’t. We want to live freely. We simply want to live our lives unconditionally.
Why? Because we are more than mothers. We are more than home makers. We are more than employees. We are individuals and we deserve to live as such. We deserve to feel adventurous in our sexuality. We deserve to feel powerful in our own skin. I don’t make waves. I am the storm. I am powerful. So are you.
We shouldn’t fear living the life we want to live. We should go out into the world and take what’s ours. Our confidence, independence and sexuality are just that. They belong to us. We have control over these things and we can never allow ourselves to forget it. That’s when we lose sight of what matters to us.
Your life should be about pleasing yourself, first. Speak your mind and be whoever makes you happy. You can choose to put yourself first. You can choose to make waves. You don’t need to force yourself to be the calm to someone else’s storm. You don’t have to be what someone else wants you to be. Be the storm.